Sorry for the big gap. I've been pretty busy, had guests, been a little sick, and looking after a little chick who has been more sick. I've been thinking about you, but haven't been writing.
I was in a meeting all day today with clients from the bank I'm working at, people from our project, and people from our R&D department. Our people - who usually dress casually for work at our own offices but dress up to go to the clients - brought the dress code up a few notches for the meeting.
The bank people, who are always in suits at their own office, dressed casually to come see us.
And yeah, I know: I talk a lot about clothes for a straight man. I've learned to accept it. But I think that next time, somebody really should coordinate this. I mean, is this the kind of meeting that requires a tie or isn't it? And how is it that we can't even agree on the "when I'm at my office I'll wear jeans and when I come to yours I'll dress up" thing? Aren't there rules about this somewhere?
And here's the other thing I think about suits in general: unless there are some of us who don't feel competent in choosing a non-uniform set of clothing in the morning, no one is going to feel more comfortable working in one than out of one. Yet we all wear them. Why? We wear them to impress them. They wear them to impress us. In the end, no one is really that impressed. Except my dry-cleaner.
I think suits should be saved for nice dinners; wearing them should be a special occasion. Work is everyday. It's normal. Why not go ahead and dress like it is? Otherwise, we men have nowhere to look to take it up a step other than a tuxedo.
And that's a pretty big step.
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I think you have a point there. I mean, it's difficult to imagine my father wearing anything more formal or dressy than his usual every-day garments, ie: suits. On the other hand I'm having a lot of trouble picturing you in one (= sorry: =) I've been told my smilies confuse a lot of people.
Well, I do wear them occasionally. Just not usually for band practice.
Best reaction I've had is when I ran into a friend at the airport one time. She just went "Ooooohhhhh", but not in the kind of voice that made it sound like it I was really supposed to hear. So, I took it to mean that I clean up okay.
Either that or, like you, she just thought the jeans were attached and had some major mental adjusting to do when she discovered they weren't.
I have also been told, though, that I look younger in a suit. I find that a lot of people already assume I'm younger than I am, and (especially professionally) this is not always to my advantage. There may come a day - and it may not be too far away - when I need to pull out some of the "that makes you look younger" tricks. But it's not now.
Yeah, i for one, dress casually to work unless i'm meeting a client. So it isn't strange to walk into my office and see me looking like i'm in my pyjamas :p
I understand how you feel about having to wear suits to work. I hadn't really thought about the lack of options to "step it up" a notch, but, man - being here in NA where dress is becoming so casual most of the time, I really like the look of a suit on a man. You do dress up well, if I may say so, and people used to think your Dad and I were younger than we were - but rest assured, that will change. It's a matter of how long, but it will come, my son...
I'm happy to see my little moniker stuck with a certain bass player.
Suits are awesome... so long as they fit and aren't too narrow in the jacket or trouser hem (some femme Italian thing - I hate that). Suits give a man presence and stature ... but if it's too big, it looks like he's playing around, in a hand-me-down or something he's growing into. At our age... that's not a good thing.
Pajamas? Well, Veronecca, that does sound comfy. I'm not going to get into too much detail, but I can pretty safely say that there would be problems if I showed up for work in mine.
And anonymous... be very, very careful. The Mme plays guitar. The bass player's name is Chuck. They're quite different...
Oh great. Just great. My profuse apologies to MLLE (not Mme, give her a chance here...) Spitfire and to the longsuffering Chuck. Je suis VACHEMENT desolee!
My brain has turned to serious guacamole with the stress of the last few days...
But man - you're giving way too many hints about your pajama choices.
Rats - I always get the abbreviations wrong.
And I have nothing more to say about pajamas.
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